What is the “Distancer and Pursuer Dynamic?” This dynamic, from the work of Dr. John Gottman, Julie Gottman and Terry Gaspard, affects all of one’s relationships over a lifespan. In this post, we address specifically the impact on family relationships when a child or partner has ADHD. How Do John and Julie Gottman Explain this
A rebuff, sideways glance or roll of the eyes can make us question our worth. Why is this and how do we stop letting things bother us? What is it that makes us cringe when we see friends out together and we weren’t invited? Why do we fear a rebuff when our invitations are denied
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Breaking Up is Hard To Do! It’s heartbreaking. Watching your teen lose a close friend that started out as a close friend. Right now, your son’s peer group is one of the biggest factors influencing his choices and behavior. When a friend that has been a close confident is no longer in your teen’s inner circle,
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School is back in-person (for many) and your child was placed – again – with “those” kids—the mean ones, the cliquey ones, the ones who dictate the terms of how the year will go. Kids know who they are, and so do parents. We talk around it because we don’t really know how to help
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Do you find yourself stopping what you are supposed to be doing because of distractions at work? Who doesn’t get distracted when the phone rings, co-workers talk about work or weekend activities, and social media notifications hit every few minutes? Sometimes distractions happen while we’re at work, school or at home that make us stop
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As parents, we do our best to ensure our kids don’t fall behind in the “lost year” and yet many parents don’t know what to look for regarding to social emotional development in children, or how to even help if needed. Age-appropriate social development in children includes taking responsibility for actions, evaluating risks and opportunities,
Some people Read the Room easily, while some don’t. Now, with the extra layer of needing to interpret others virtually, it can be even more nuanced than ever. As a world, we are reaching a social crisis. Stress, loneliness, uncertainty and political divide are just some of the recent demands influencing our ability to Read
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Frustration is something most of us are familiar with. We may have had our hearts set on something that didn’t materialize, or we personally fell short on a goal, or someone had promised us something that didn’t happen. The same frustrations can exhibit in our kids too. And some kids can be more easily frustrated
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How is your child’s behavior now that school is back.. well, sort of back? Are things moving along smoothly? Is your child, tween or teen excited to be back in school, yet not spending time downtime with friends? Does your child or teen prefer his phone to in-person friends, misses the coach’s clear annoyance, or
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This time of year, as parents wade back into the school routine, you may be noticing your tweens and teenagers have already missed assignments. Similar to wading through a 1-800 customer service line, we can spend hours online trying to resolve issues. We encourage our tweens and teens to write their teacher and work through
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