“It was a total failure,” a client tells me about a situation. Now listening to their story, what you wouldn’t get from this one statement is that the situation being described is complex. It was full of many small wins, different perspectives and absolutely NOT absolute. Like most events in our lives, it was nuanced […]
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Kids with ADHD can be tough. You love them with all your heart and yet, your child seems out of touch at times. They don’t operate with urgency to get important tasks done and when they do get into action, it’s messy, or sloppy, or disorganized, or challenging. Arguing is super common or they cocoon
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You made a comment that someone is a hoarder. What you meant to say was that they are a clutter bug, but somehow your comment came out too harsh, too abrasive. Now you realize what you said was cringey and made people uncomfortable, so now no one will look you in the eye and you
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Can you relate to this? You wish you could say that pithy comeback to a comment that knocked you off guard. Today, you ruminate about why someone would have said that, and how you should have responded. If the comment was off-putting, you should have defended yourself or someone else with a funny and yet
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If you are the parent of a child with ADHD, you may have a more challenging job than other parents due to your kid’s behavioral patterns that can be more taxing than their peers. Even a charming, cooperative kid with ADHD can get out of control as these behavioral patterns can be attributed to ADHD
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Have you been diagnosed as an adult With ADHD? That is good news! Now you can learn how to manage it in order to excel in all areas of your life! ADHD is often diagnosed later in life because it can be “hidden” and because fundamentally many people don’t know about ADHD and therefore they
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Juggling the many aspects of a reciprocal conversation can be hard for people with ADHD. Sometimes, we talk and talk without really engaging with the other person. We talk AT them rather than with them, and then we experience, shame, embarrassment and rumination—replaying the interaction for days. What is a Reciprocal Conversation? When two or
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It is common for people with ADHD to feel emotions more intensely, to have less friends and fewer invites, and to experience greater rejection than our neurotypical peers. Ever find yourself wanting to mingle and chat, yet you’re haunted by past mistakes? Do you struggle to pay attention to the person you are talking to,
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A BIG shout out to those of you who answered my survey. Of particular note, it is apparent that many of you are exhausted and not practicing self-care. I am therefore dedicating this blog and newsletter to How to Practice Self-Care and Mindfulness in times of stress. I personally find the exercises below to be
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What is the “Distancer and Pursuer Dynamic?” This dynamic, from the work of Dr. John Gottman, Julie Gottman and Terry Gaspard, affects all of one’s relationships over a lifespan. In this post, we address specifically the impact on family relationships when a child or partner has ADHD. How Do John and Julie Gottman Explain this
