What is it to be a Social Spy?
The concept of Social Spy is designed to help you or your child learn to manage concerns around social skills and social and emotional development.
Many of us are not great social observers and have difficulty Reading the Room. What’s more, stress – which most of us are wrestling with – makes us less likely to connect and observe. If we are hesitant, we worry that we need to engage more. For adults with ADHD, this may translate into barging in and “doing” rather than hanging back and observing. If you are struggling, being a Social Spy is one of the best ways to get started. As a Social Spy, you observe, discreetly, hold back, and take an inventory of the group or situation’s mood, tone, members, energy, etc.
How to practice social spy
Go into a virtual or public event with a mission to be a social spy to obtain specific social information. Rehearse ahead of time in order to watch other people in a subtle, covert way and to listen without looking like you are eavesdropping. The idea is to scan and read the room to learn crucial information about peers such as how they dress, what they talk about as well as how to observe and notice other people’s behavior, mood and energy.
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