How To Stop Being The Person Who Says All The Wrong Things (At All The Wrong Times)
As a person with ADHD, you may find that you go down a wormhole when you’re talking and say things you meant to filter out.
Even if you don’t have ADHD, you may find yourself in this situation.
For instance, after observing someone’s space, you made a comment that they’re a hoarder. What you meant to say was that they are a clutter bug, but somehow your comment came out too harsh, too abrasive.
Now, you realize what you said was cringey and made people uncomfortable, so now no one will look you in the eye. If only you had a time machine that let you go back and fix it.
As you begin to think back, it reminds you of other times when you told a joke that turned out to be a zinger that landed wrong. Instead of making people laugh, you insulted and shamed the person when all you meant to do was make a joke.
You vow to stop saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. But how? When will it end?
Instead of ending the conversation, you go on and on about some personal detail and by the time you’re finished, the people listening have your bank account numbers and a history of the dysfunction in your family.
Sometimes your tone is too strong, or you don’t read the room correctly. Despite the fact that you would never hurt anyone intentionally, your words offend and then you have to live with the regret and self-regulation hangover that sets in.
Why couldn’t you just control your mouth? If only this was the first time something like this happened to you, it would be an easier fix.