Bad Texter? Worse Caller? 6 Ways to Rekindle Cold Friendships
“You may think that your friend wants nothing to do with you. But what if I told you that your friend would probably be thrilled to hear from you, even if it’s been a while?”
Bad texter? Even worse at making phone calls? Notoriously bad at keeping in touch with friends?
Do you sometimes drown in shame over how long it’s been since you last reached out to a friend? Do you cringe as you remember your last conversation with your friend, eons ago, when the ball was in your court to respond? “There goes another friendship” you think to yourself. The thought of reaching out now, after all this time, makes you want to run and hide.
Life happens. We all juggle so much all the time, and ADHD executive dysfunction subjects others, even those who are important to us, to the dreaded realm of “out of sight, out of mind.” When it happens, you catastrophize. “I’m so bad at keeping in touch,” you think. “No wonder I have no friends.”
You may think that your friend wants nothing to do with you. But what if I told you that your friend would probably be thrilled to hear from you, even if it’s been a while?
It doesn’t have to be a half-hour phone call or a video chat. A text or a quick DM via social media works just fine. You may feel uncomfortable when you reach out, but I promise that you’ll feel much better after taking this small but important step. Your friend’s reaction, I hope, will pleasantly surprise you. (Just think about how thrilled you’d feel if an old friend reached out to you.)
Then, use these tips to check in more consistently with friends.